Before We get started with the work together on what was formerly your goal, We agree on the basics. you are no longer in your battle alone. We team up, and help you, as a team. So what used to be your goal, and your journey now becomes also Our goal for you. Therefore I will be using one of the #SM lingo terms: #yOur goal, meaning it is your goal and Our goal for you.

As it is usual in authority relationship expressed in net-speech, We capitalize pronouns associated with the higher order: either the person in authority position, or the House. The reason I am using We is to say We, the Authority of the House of SM, or Our training facility #ObsObsidian, as opposed to Me, as a person. As you may also notice, I do capitalize My Name and pronouns habitually, to “SirMind” everyone, including Myself about the NEED of using the power of authority with reason and responsibility.

For our teamwork to work, We will need to make a few agreements from the get go. The most important one, first and formost, is CONSENT. you MUST declare that you are entering this agreement by your free will, without ulterior motives, or coersion, that you are capable and willing to give enthusiastic consent.

Secondly there is the agreement of your willingness for a partial, negotiated transfer of authority from you, to Us, so We can navigate you more efficiently. That way we can continue to work together and trusting that each party does their best possible to pursue the goals, without any harm done, intended or accidental to anyone. We do this Safe, Sane, Consensual so signal difficulty through yOur #SAFEWORD

— If something seems too hard, undoable, or in any way offensive to you, signal is by saying SAFEWORD and then explain what you are vetoing, or objecting to. Do not continue the activity you objected to, until We have had a chance to either modify it to your needs/boundaries or replaced it with a different but hopefully just as effective measure. —

That power transfer is also expressed and symbolized in the capitalization of Names, or Pronouns, that point towards Me/Us in the sense of those in Authority; conversely, you should try to decap your own names/pronouns, as a constant reminder, that you are consenting to have the decision making authority transferred to your Trainer SM [within clearly defined boundaries].

Thirdly, the way the teamwork works best, is by Us and you dividing the work-load between Us and you, not necessarily in equal parts, but by the quality of our ability to generate the changes for and with you, We and you want to achieve. We therefore need to agree, that I, as the Trainer and person of authority will do what I can do best for you: I give you the directives, the directions, I design the program. Then you do the part you can do the best, which is applying yourself to the plan, and at least give it a serious effort and try to execute the orders to the best of your ability. Since you are the one doing the things, you also need to take notes, on how it is going and document the journey. As you report honestly, authentically and precisely, I get the insight on where in the journey you are. Based on your reporting, I will evaluate your progress and pin-point what areas may require more or less work. And based on My evaluation and expertise I can give you new directions. So that way, you and I both do two major aspects of the work-load, that we are respectively good at, for and with you.

Fourthly, We need awareness, that change usually does not come easy, and there will be rough patches. Old habits, espcailly bad ones, die hard, and are prone to come back, in the least convenient of times. Doubt may set in, and sabotage even small made victories of the past. Therefore, We address that situation even before it arises by agreeing, that in yOur teamwork, I as the Trainer in Authority will always argue your case for you, and conversely, you, will argue My case for Me. In essence it means, that I will be empathic to your difficulty and suffering, and try to protect you from harm, and when things feel difficult, you will remind yourself that We are in this together for you, and try to find reasons and arguments, why you should try to obey the ordered path, or seek ways how to make things work, instead of giving up or feeling butt-hurt. [see #2/safewords, to understand you do have a voice if need be]

I use a lot of Sir-isms and acronyms, with Mine, such as the fun one above, SirMinder/SirMind, for remind, as to refer to the things We do, and differentiate them from the regular meaning. One of the most striking words that I have changed and use, for the purpose of differentiation, is konsequence vs. consequence. While consequence is the natural result or progression of a previous action, konsequence/s describe the consequences that I assign (that may or may not be kink inclusive).

Dial, is not only a bar of soap, but also a motto of SM, Discipline is applied Love.

We work usually in instalments of 10 minutes per day, as many times a day as your busy schedule allows. If 10 minutes is difficult, it is legitimate to cut an instalment in half and do 5 minutes at a time. Remember we are doing this with and for you. The more time, and intensity you can afford to the Training, the better, deeper or quicker will be the results you are after. you will need a paper pad, and writing utensils in the colors of black, blue, red, green – there are Pentel and Bic pens, that hold all 4 these colors in one pen, but any brand and type of handwriting utensil will work. Having also access to a pencil, or other colors – such as: pink, orange, brown, purple, teal – are a bonus, but not urgently necessary.

If this is your NEED? We can help you indeed!